Have you always thought that you could have the wonderful relationship that you always longed for if only the other person didn't behave in such a challenging way? Are you at a point in your life where you are thinking, "Maybe it's me?".
Well... you are right and you are right! If the other person was the way that you wanted him or her to be, you would have more of what you wanted in the relationship. You're right! And, if most of your relationships have been filled with drama and disappointment, then the common factor is who? You. You're right, again!
Don't worry! There is good news. Though you do not have the ability to change others, you can have healthy and happy relationships both in your personal and your professional life. If that's what you truly want than there are changes that you can make within yourself that can lead to having what you long for.
The main reason that you bring in , and keep, the wrong people in your life is because you allow it. You allow it because underneath...deep down..you do not believe that you deserve or can have what you really wish for. This belief was created sometime in your past. The great thing about beliefs is that they can be changed. You have the ability to create new beliefs...and right now!
The first step to having what you want is this awareness. When you first meet someone, instead of being concerned about what he or she thinks of you, ask yourself the following questions.
- Do I like what I see?
- Do I like how I am being treated?
- What has the person accomplished? Do I respect the choices made?
So often, we are concerned with whether the other person likes us that we never even stop to ask ourselves these questions. And if we do, we don't listen to the answers that we receive. Has that happened to you?
Have you closed your eyes to the reality that was right in front of you? Have you continued to go out with people after learning enough to make you want to run the other way?
Have no fear. There is hope!
The first step, to having the healthy and happy relationship that you want, you have actually already taken. Awareness is the first step to change. It takes a lot of courage to take this step and you have just taken it!
Now you are ready to start on a new path. A path that will lead to the fulfilling relationships that you desire. Your authentic path. Now is the time to change the beliefs that have blocked you and limited you for so long.
- Allow yourself to believe that you deserve it.
- Allow yourself to believe that it is actually possible to have.
- Pay attention to the next person of interest that comes into your life and keep your eyes open.
- If you don't like what you see, trust yourself...and RUN!
- If you like what you see, take your time. Choose wisely.
With each new step you take, you will continue to gain more insights into the reasons why you have been bringing in the wrong people, and may have even kept them in your life, and will receive the gifts, the life tools, that will allow you to make different choices.
Wishing you love and success on every step you take on your authentic path,
If you want to gain a deeper understanding of the choices you have made in the past, of the beliefs that are interfering presently in your life, and to experience the shift in your relationship, please join us, on Friday evenings from 7:30 to 9:00 p.m. beginning September 9, 2016 for the fun and unique workshop, Creating Your Authentic Relationships.
I look forward to taking the next steps with you on your new path!
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